1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
A decision to celebrate a marriage within the life of the Church is a declaration of faith. While you could be married according to the laws of the State without any relationship to the Church, you have chosen to marry not merely in a civil contract, but in an act of worship and thanks given to God. The marriage service is a form of worshipping the Lord. It draws inspiration and content from the Scriptures. The number of participants, the order of worship, the placement of music, special readings, wedding candles, flowers, etc., will be part of your conversation with the Pastor.